Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Need To Take My Own Advice

I have not written lately. Not because of time limits. I have had plenty of time. I just did not have anything remarkable to expound on or an ax to grind. Now I realize I have an ax to grind with myself. There are a lot of "trite old sayings" that I use for myself or to assist people when they are looking for the "tree in the forest". Many of them are hold overs from when I worked at the substance abuse treatment center. "You alone can do it, but you cannot do it alone" is one of my favorites. The definition of lunacy is obvious, "Doing the same thing the same way and expecting different results". To be successful we usually need to "change our playgrounds and playmates". I forgot the very one I needed.

Over at one of the local forums that will remain nameless, there is a guy (I guess it is a guy, I have no way to know for sure) that has been driving me nuts. Long, verbose posts, language meant to incite, verbal attacks on anyone who dares to disagree with his (her) view. And, damned if I didn't fall into it. Some statements were made that really angered me. I tried to respond politely, but to no avail. The confrontation continued on a couple of threads. I forgot all about, "Don't let anyone live in your head rent free". I was not only letting him (her) live in my head rent free, I also furnished the apartment and paid the utilities.

No more! My last post to any of the comments made by this individual was, "I will no longer add fuel to the flame." As much as I wanted to say a final "fuck off", I resisted. I have no need to defend my thoughts. They are mine and that is all that matters.


Anonymous said...

(clap, clap, clap) That is exactly why I left 'that' forum and have been much happier since. It wasn't that person, as he/she had not joined yet. But it was reading all the bullying and BS and even some of the attitudes toward my thoughts and opinions. I closed the door and will not let them in again, even IF they paid rent. :)

Katie said...

I agree totally! I quit reading him/her recently as well. No sense getting all riled up over it. There are too many other people in this area that are smart that enjoy having a thoughtful conversation without being a confrontational bully!

Diane Vespa said...

Said "offender" has been put in "read only" mode. Peace shall reign again ;)

Exblick said...

I don't think putting someone on "read only" does anything to help. How about just ignoring the guy?

Ramble...glad you re-adjusted yourself! And also pointed out the fact that Winston was from 1984. I can't believe no one else figured that out!

PeoriaIllinoisan said...

'I don't think putting someone on "read only" does anything to help. How about just ignoring the guy?'

Yea, that worked so well in the past.